Let's talk life: How can I keep the love fire burning?

Yvonnie Bailey- Davidson, Gleaner Writer

Dear Counsellor:

I have been married for a few years and would like to keep the relationship in a lovable mood. We both work and share the expenses.

- Millicent

Dear Millicent,

Marriage is good and can be beneficial to both partners. Sharing in everything and being respectful of each other are good for the marriage. Build pleasant memories for future reference. Treat each other well and discuss your plans. Avoid surprises and get agreement on issues.

Try to be lovable at all times. Kiss in the morning before you leave for work and in the evening when you return from work. Praise effort and give plenty of compliments. Teach your husband to be kind and thoughtful as well as creative.

In the good times celebrate milestones, anniversaries, birthdays and events. At least once a week, have a night for both of you and enjoy each others company. Make time for each other and let the children see you being caring. Remember you are role models for your children. Manage the stress of life and the anger. Remember in all things let God leads.

How can I raise my child well?

Dear Counsellor:

I am a new mother and I have great plans for my daughter. I would like to get some tips on raising my child.

- Megan

Dear Megan,

Every parent wants to be perfect and have a healthy, happy and successful adult child. We try our best while putting God in charge. The most important thing is to develop a trusting and flexible relationship with your daughter.

As your child gets older, she should be able to discuss anything with you. The relationship should be warm and empathic. We as adults have to see the issues from our perspectives as well as the children's viewpoints. Encourage your daughter to talk with you.

As children grow they get curious about things and will have a lot of questions. Some mothers encourage their children to participate in the chores at home. A child needs to help to set the table, fix the bed and help to prepare meals. These basic skills are important to everyone.

You have a lot of teaching to do as you will have to show your daughter how to do many things. Every child needs lots of love and hugs. You are the role model for your child. Whatever you do, she will do too.

Discipline is a teaching exercise. Discipline with love at all times. Manage your anger and your stress. Be in a good relationship with her father. You will be leading by example. Build pleasant memories for her and teach her to be positive and to trust in God.

Email questions and comments for Dr Yvonnie Bailey-Davidson to yvonniebd@hotmail.com or call her at 978-8602.