The fear of ‘losing’
One of the greatest fears we carry is the fear of losing – whether it is people, relationships, jobs, comforts, or securities we think will be there forever. We hold them tightly, as if clinging harder will make them stay.
This illusion drains us, leaving us exhausted in the effort to control what is never meant to be controlled. The truth is, nothing in life is stagnant nor permanent. Change is the very heartbeat of existence. People change, circumstances shift, and even we are not the same from one moment to the next.
THE LAW OF ‘CHANGE’
When we resist this natural law, life pushes us, often with discomfort, to remind us that everything must flow. To let go of the old does not mean to detach coldly or to deny its existence. It means to embrace changes with open arms, without the anticipation of losing.
What comes into your life is a gift, meant to be cherished in its time. And when it leaves, it makes way for something new. If we spend our moments fearing loss, we miss the very joy those moments were meant to bring. True wisdom lies in flowing with life’s current, not fighting against it.
FROM PERMANENCE TO PRESENCE
Letting go is not about giving freedom to others – it is about giving freedom to yourself. When we stop gripping life so tightly, we realize that joy is not tied to permanence but to presence. By releasing fear, we allow ourselves to experience beauty in its purest form – where love is not possession but appreciation; where joy is not attainment but sharing. In that space, nothing can rob us of our peace because it is not dependent on what stays or leaves.
TRUE SAFETY
The root of fear lies in believing that our safety depends on things outside of us. But in reality, the only safety we can have is within. Everything external—people, possessions, roles – will eventually change. The one constant is you. If you build your inner ground, then no loss can shake you. Life teaches this truth every day: each breath left does not return, every moment passes to make way for the next. Death of the old allows birth of the new. When we accept this rhythm wholeheartedly, fear dissolves.
LIVE FEARLESSLY
Fear can only survive when we cling. The moment we release our grip and trust life’s greater design, fear disappears, and freedom takes its place. In that freedom, we float with the current of life – open, light, and joyful. This is the spiritual essence of living: to live without fear, to lose without sorrow, and to trust the infinite flow that never truly leaves us empty or alone.
Courtesy: Rajyoga Meditation Centre, Kingston (meditation courses and counselling are offered free of charge). Get in touch via email: bkmeditation.jam@gmail.com or call: 876-853-7848. Follow them on Instagram: rajyoga_meditation_jamaica